Saturday, June 13, 2009

gender roles


I don't often post on subjects as nebulous as gender (there is a history class in university that I recall every time I hear the word "gender"...the same class in which I was reprimanded for writing a paper taking the side against a prominent feminist in history...a mistake I did not duplicate, although now I wish I had - GRADES BE DAMNED, SOMETIMES FEMINISTS HAVE IT WRONG)

however

I found it interesting, nay, telling, that my husband and I parted ways today to celebrate the bachelor/bachelorette of a couple who are friends of ours.

The bride-to-be enjoyed an afternoon of elaborate sandwiches and tea, reading her greeting cards out loud, passing them around the room to admire, opening prettily-wrapped lingerie, having herself photographed with each gift, and sitting in a circle whilst each girl present narrated how they first met and first impressions, how her and her fiance are the perfect match, and well-wishes and prayers for the future.

The groom-to-be went paintballing. Then to the Crooked Cue for beers with his buddies.

Amused as I am, I can't help but wonder at the mystery that is gender. As a woman who once referred to herself as "one of the boys" I now know that there is so much more to the equation. I daydream about home decor, buy magazines to inspire my creative fashion sense, feel sexy in 4-inch stillettoes, get a kick out of watering the flowers in the front garden, apply makeup daily, research alternative birth control, interview nearly complete strangers about pregancy, and shave 50% of my body hair FOR FUN. I can't talk myself out of it. It's just...natural.

Before Andrew gets home from the Crooked Cue, I think I'll give myself a pedicure.
What are little boys made of?
Snips and snails, and puppy-dogs' tails,
That's what little boys are made of.
What are little girls made of?
Sugar and spice, and everything nice,
That's what little girls are made of.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

For fun?! I definitely don't shave for fun! haha ;-) I hate shaving! The fact that my hot water tank empties right after I put the cream on my legs probably doesn't help that any...