Thursday, March 13, 2008


I admit I'm not one to follow politics, the goings-on in America, or the combination thereof. But the Spitzer scandal has my attention.

Or, rather, Silda does.

I can't imagine the bludgeon her heart sustained when she found out what her husband had done in secret but I can imagine that there's more to the story than a governor's
cliché dalliances. In an interview given to 02138 Magazine before the scandal, Silda was "asked if she and her husband take time together, just the two of them" to which she laughed and responded, "It's hard to say what we do..."

Now, sitting at my desk, I'm reading a letter to the editor in today's Toronto Star that says: "Silda, like many other spouses who have found themselves in the same ghastly dilemma, agonized over what her self-respect demanded and conducted herself in that light - in other words, out of regard to what, all things considered, was most conducive to her own self-respect. But why did she choose humiliation?"

I'm just speculating, but what if she has decided to stand by her husband's side, figuratively and literally, not because it was "conducive to her own self-respect" but because she still respects him? What if standing by her husband's side, figuratively and literally, isn't as much a symbol of "humiliation" as much symbol of humble commitment?

What about the 'till death do us part' bit?

An oldies song that my mom used to sing to me (if you knew my mom, you'd understand) goes:

Evil grows in the dark
Where the sun it never shines
Evil grows in cracks and holes
And lives in people's minds

I was recently, pleasantly surprised to discover that, in the right context and with the right person, the disclosure of The Skeletons can actually facilitate intimacy. Which is bizarre to me because the very things I desperately attempted to forget about were always whispering threats to prevent intimacy.

Stupid lies.

Stupid secrets.

Stupid cracks and holes.

Thanks, Silda. I pray that you find healing for your wounds and a greater understanding of how much you are Loved. I bless you to discover restorative light and intimacy in the tapestry of your marriage. Let Him repay you for the years the locusts have eaten.

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