Monday, November 01, 2010

mama monday: change the world

I've made a shortlist of the worst things (that I can think of) to wait for:
  1. Waiting for a method of public transportation, outside, when the weather resembles Voldemort's return to power.
  2. Waiting for your turn at a government subsidized office when turns depend on complex letter/number system, like Bingo, and the letter/number system does not progress alphabetically nor chronologically.
  3. Waiting in line at an amusement park for a ride that your peer group chose by democratic vote, wherein you were of the minority group, in the blistering sun, having eaten very little.
Waiting to get pregnant (to be pregnant? to turn pregnant?  to pregnacize?) is definitely up there and follows a strict mathematical increase of vexation whereby the axes are represented by "amount of time you are not pregnant" and "amount of time you've been thinking about being pregnant, including contemplations about, dreams about, poetry about, and blog postings about".

Unlike other experiences in waiting, however, I find that this one is difficult to explain.  In fact, other than disappointment, the waiting period is generally pleasant: life is good, I have a fantabulous husband who loves me to bits and makes me laugh, friends surround and support me, an amazing extended family, a great house, and many aspirations for the future.  Compared to examples 1, 2, and 3 above, the actual waiting process involved with parenthood is benign.  A baby would only be the addition to an already agreeable existence.

Simplistic, maybe, but also true.  So why not focus on what we have instead of what we're missing?

When Baby Gaz makes his/her debut and makes us parents in the process, will he/she want to hear that we were excitedly planning for his/her arrival while making the most out of every opportunity?  Or will he/she have an image of Mom and Dad weeping and complaining their way through the months before he/she was born?  I don't want whining to be a family trait.

Jon, new dad, wrote this in his blog just before the birth of his son, Noah:
...many of the characteristics, habits, mannerisms, modes of speech, and even culture that my son will learn are already in me.  The lifestyle of fatherhood began long, long ago (not too long ago, I’m only 25 here!) and continues to grow and deepen as I do. What I’m getting at is the effect my life has on my son’s life even before he is born.
I want to live life now in a way that positively affects my family to come.  If I want them to live in a world with less hatred, I'm going to start loving people more.  If I want them to live in a world of possibilities, I'm going to stop limiting myself.  If I want them to live in a world of hope, I'm going to cultivate it so they'll have a harvest of it when they're born.

I want to make my children proud.

“Be the change you want to see in the world.”

(Mahatma Ghandi)

"Once you bring life into this world, you must protect it.
We must protect it by changing the world."
(Elie Weisel)

I'm starting with the man in the mirror
I'm asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you wanna make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself and then make that change
(Michael Jackson, Man In The Mirror)


Veronique Golloher said...

Love it Sarah! You'll be the 'most ready' parents I know! It's so true that who we are affects our children more than we realize. I pray for myself now more than ever because I see so much of myself in my children...I want to make sure that I am the best person I can be (GOD HELP ME!!) so I can walk this life in confidence that I am giving them the best example possible. Awesome post, I wish I was as ready and excited as you are when I got surprised with my first pregnancy. That's one thing you'll never look back and regret you had done different like I do so often!

beth said...

Wow. It was a delight to read this.

I just wrote about freedom on our blog:
Inspired by wee Adelaide, of course.

And I SO agree with you Vero! We are praying for ourselves more often, hehe. She just teaches us so much about being childlike! And somehow brings out the very very best in us, too ...

Thea said...

I enjoyed this post. So how do you plan on showing more love to people? I haven't heard from you in months!! Where's the love, Sarah?...Where's the love? :(

Jonathan Boerger said...


If I want my son to edit his writing more carefully does that mean I should start now? jk ;)

I also love how God takes any aspect of our crapulence and rewrites the story (for us and our children) into a glorious success.

Anonymous said...

Many of those waiting things are bad, but they're all short-term (ie, less than a day) waits, and something as simple as having an iPod can make them easier.

Waiting to be pregnant...first of all, the, um, activity leading up to that status is more enjoyable (presuming you do it right) than standing in line. Even if you have an iPod.

Your life will be so tremendously, tremendously different after you have the child...without arguing better or worse, all will agree: different. Savor and enjoy this time now, for once you are pregnant you will never have it again.